Perceived competence has been proven to have a big impact on actual competence. So, recently, breaking research showing how parent homework help does not appear related to academic achievement piqued my interest. How can we help our kids if we can’t help? What is the best way to help our kids feel and become competent?
For starters: We can offer our kids choices and we can offer them genuine encouragement. But when we offer them answers, is it really help? How do we develop student sense of self-efficacy? Are we really rescuing our kids when we role model that they can’t do that problem on their own? These are becoming huge questions for parents and teachers. Students with more authoritarian or directive parents and teachers will find it hard to function autonomously. What is an authoritarian parent or teacher to do! One answer: provide process goals rather than distal goals.